The days my dearest visited part 3

Thursday, on this day, we visited Chinatown and saw the sights that there was there. It was still raining, can you imagine that?

We took in the colour and the sights. I saw many clothes shops as well as antique shops and trinket shops. Cartcart seemed particularly interested in a mask shop.

Cart: My sister collects masks, I think she’d like one of the masks here

I looked at the rows and rows of elaborate wooden, I admired the craftmanship and design. Cart asks if there were any Malay masks being song there but I couldnt tell – I’ve never seen a malay mask before.

We walked along the rows of shops till we reached the sri mariamam temple.

We heard music being played inside and I asked cart if he wanted to take a look inside.

Cart: No, I dont think I want to.

Me: Ok

We walked back to the train station and cart pauses for a while

Cart: But I’m being silly right? I’ve travelled halfway round the world and I’m saying no to seeing a temple?

Hema, a close friend of mine was free on that night and decided to have dinner with us at Little India. We were supposed to meet by Tekka but I couldnt seem to find her.

Me : (handphone) Where are you Hema? I cant see you?

Hema : I’m right here, by the bus stop, dont you see me?

Me: Where? Where?

Hema: Here! Here! I’m waving my hands and jumping up and down!

Me: I dont see you!

Cart: There she is (points)

Me: Oh!

We had dinner at Komala Villas, an Indian fast food restaurant that Hema recommended. We walked fast to avoid the drizzle of the rain and after many turns along the roads, we reached a nondescript area. The place seemed so ordinary but since Hema recommended it, we were game to give it a try.

Cart got a meal with some biryani rice, puri, different type of gravies, papodam and yoghurt while I had some naan bread while hema had thosai.

Me and Hema looked at Cartcart eating.

Hema: Do you know how to use your fingers to eat, cart? You curve your fingers like this, and pluck the bread, bit by bit and scoop it in your mouth

Cart: Like this?

Hema and me: Yes! Very good!

The food was actually pretty good here and I thoroughtly enjoyed my naan bread and the gravies. Cartcart seemed to like his food too.

Cart: Mmmm! How come we dont have things like these back home? This place would be so popular back, since its fast food, it would be good during lunch time. I like the food! I like everything!

I smiled at Cart and Hema and enjoyed their company and wished for the pleasant night to never end.

(To be continued)

The days my dearest visited part 2

View from the top of the bed and breakfast.

 

Tuesday, the morning after Christmas. It was raining when we had our late breakfast of local delights. And it was still raining in the late afternoon.

Me: Argh! This rain is depressing! I wanna go out! I wanna show you around!

Cart: Having a relaxing day indoors is good too

Eventually the rain abated a little and by then it was already evening. It would be too late to go to Sim Lim Square, a location where many electrical things that would interest both Cart and me, who are technophiles.

In the end, I brought him to Funan Center and I hoped that there were still shops which were still open.

City hall was still raining when we reached there and we had to huddle close together in my tiny portable umbrella as we walked unsteadily towards Funan Center.

Cart: Wait! The traffic light is still red!

Me: What? Lets just cross! No cars are passing right now

Cart: Ahh … We’re crossing the road the Italian way 😛

We stopped a while to have coffee at the Coffee Club Express where Cartcart had his much needed coffee. Once, he said that coffee was part of the Italian DNA and that it was a daily necessity.

Cart: This espresso isn’t the best, but its still good.

Me: This hazelnut latte is really lovely

Cart: This pamphlet here says that people who likes ‘pick me ups’ like lattes are sociable, gregarious and likes to party

Me: Really? I didn’t know that. Its funny cause my favourite thing to do is to slack all day 😛

Most of the computer shops seemed to be closing as we were done with coffee (why do they close so early?) that the only place we really spent time in was the Times Bookshop where Cartcart seemed transfixed in a local cookbook.

Cart: Look at the recipes, are they good? Do you think it is authentic? What do you think are the food that I’ll like in here?

We looked at the pictures and the recipes together and the recipes looked pretty good. He liked it enough to purchase it. We then walked around the bookstore and poured over the interesting books like, “Different toilets of the world”. (Did you know that there is a toilet entirely made of gold in Hong Kong?)

I noticed the language section and was looking at the learn Italian segment. And that was when I noticed a small Malay book.

Me: Hey Cartcart, maybe you might want to buy this one, so that you could easily talk to my mum and other Malay people 😛

He took the book that I was pointing to, scanned through it, and then said, “This looks useful. I’ll get it” He actually bought the book!

There were absolutely no shops opened from the second floor onwards. (It was only 8.30ish pm) The ones which still had their lights on were scrambling to close shop for the day.

Cart hadn’t eaten for the entire day, save for breakfast and I was concerned that he might have a stomach ache like what I felt yesterday. I didn’t want him to feel the same.

Me: Aren’t you hungry?

Cart: No, I’m fine. I ate a lot at the business class lounge remember?

Me: Yes, but that was days ago! I insist that you eat!

In the end, we went to have dinner at Sakura, a Thai-Chinese restaurant that was nearby. We had to be careful in ordering food as cart was vegetarian.

Me: Hi, I’d like some vegetable soup, bean curd hot plate and some fried kangkong please. But please, no meat or fish in them whatsoever. My friend is a vegetarian.

Waitress: Ok (scribbles in big letters “Vegetarian” in the receipt)

When the food arrived, happily I tucked in to the dishes and rice. “Try this bean curd dearest, it’s really nice ” I invited him.

I saw him chewing, and then he spit out his food.

What’s wrong?

Look

To my horror, I saw a piece of chicken! I was stunned! We quickly called the waitress to have it taken away.

Cart: I cannot eat this. There is meat in it. I’m vegetarian.

Waitress: Oh! Sorry sorry! *rushes away to the kitchen*

Cart: I’m surprised. I thought we made it clear. We saw her scribbling in big words.

I felt really bad. When I was in Rome, Cartcart was extremely careful with the food that I consumed. He made sure that I did not consume any meat or meat products, especially pork. And here we were, our dinner out together and I blundered. I poked around the fried kangkong and to my utter shock found tiny shrimps in them.

It was really upsetting. Cartcart assured me that it was okay, but I still felt bad anyway.

The waitress came up with a fresh dish of hot plate and we continued our dinner.

On Wednesday, mum wanted to bring cart and me to Darul Arqam, a Muslim convert association. After parking the scooter at the car-park nearby, mum and me had breakfast together with Cartcart at the bed and breakfast and headed off to the Paya Lebar Mrt Station.

Darul Arqam was near Geylang and Joo Chiat. The place looked very different compared to the last time that I went there. The Geylang that I remembered was demolished and relocated in a temporary location while waiting for the new construction to be completed.

Mum pointed to a roof at the Malay Heritage Building which was next to the road we were walking on.

Mum: Do you see that Cart? The roof is pointed and curvy at the sides, that’s our traditional kampong house. We have houses on stilts like these because we were prone to floods.

Soon after, we reached the place and enquired at the head office upon whom to speak to. A young woman invited us to sit in the office and we had an informal talk together.

Mum whispering: This is such a special day! I’ve never been in Darul Arqam before. I’ve always wanted to go here!

Me: I absolutely don’t know what to ask her! How you doing Cartcart?

Cart: I feel nervous …

But our fears were for naught as the young woman went through the steps for understanding Islam and eventual conversion.

Young woman: How long will you be here? A week? Then it would be hard for you to attend classes here. Where are you from? Italy? So far there are two Italians in Singapore whom converted. Why don’t I hook you up with him as it would be easier for you to converse with him in your native language? I’ll do a check for you on the internet to see if there are any Islamic institutions in Rome.

Young woman returning later: Oh I’m sorry, the network is down at the moment, but if you pass me your email, I would be happy to send you the details as soon as I can.

(I found out later that the internet connection in Singapore was slow due to the earthquake that effected the Taiwan network cables)

All in all the meeting didn’t go too badly. It was a relaxed and casual environment and it wasn’t pushy and evangelical.

I observed the conversation of an ustadz with two Japanese men sitting in front of me talking about the existence of God and was quite transfixed at the quiet and patient demeanour of the men.

Shall we go?” Mum asked, as I went out of my observation.

We made a quick stop at the bookshop where mum bought a book, “It’s a souvenir for the first time that I visited this place” Mum whispered to me and I chuckled. There were plenty of interesting things there, even a Koran MP3 player, some DVD’s and some books that I used to study in Sunday classes.

Me: I’m kind of hungry mum, Cartcart. Shall we stop a while at the hawker centre?

Mum bought for Cartcart a plate of rice with some peanut sauce, crispy tempe and begedel, a potato cutlet. She was extremely dismayed when I conveyed the story of our dinner last night and was clucking and went up to the stall owner to be doubly sure of the contents of the food.

Cartcart was really enjoying his food and I was amazed!

Me: Do you really like the food so much? I mean, its just plain, ordinary food to me

Cart: I like it! Especially the potato. If I didn’t like it, I wouldn’t eat it.

Mum: This is chendol, you should try it, and Chng Tng too.

Cart: Mmmmm!!! This is tasty!

I must say that I was very surprised to see that he likes our local food so much. Cartcart’s taste-buds are made for Singaporean food.

And I sat there in amazement and smiling at mum and Cartcart and thought at how surreal everything was. Mum eating her ayam penyet, and this white man happily eating his food in a hawker center in Geylang Serai.

I think I’m dreaming.

(to be continued)

The days my dearest visited

Cartcart left for Rome last night. My family and relatives were there to see him off. Even with these people around, I can’t seem to hold back my tears. That heartache feeling again.

As we waved at him as he passed by the gantry, it wasn’t too long ago that I saw him at the arrival hall.

Cartcart arrived on Sunday evening. A day late due to the fog at the Heathrow airport. Back in Singapore, it has been raining. I must have looked a little dishevelled, being caught in the rain on my scooter. Upon reaching the arrival hall, I waited by the barricades. There were many other people there, waiting for their friends and loved ones. In time, the area was crowded with people.

One by one the travellers come out from the arrival hall. But where was Cartcart?

After what seemed like an eternity, I saw him, behind the glass. I smiled at him. He noticed me, and smiled back and immediately my heart warmed.

He pointed at the baggage counter, “My luggage is missing! Only after the longest time, he came out of the arrival hall looking a little sad. His luggage will only arrive later in the next flight, tomorrow. The only thing he was carrying was a small bag with his wallet and a magazine.

Because of the incident at Heathrow, I haven’t showered for 3 days!“, he complained.

Ewww! You stink!“, I jokingly replied.

It was Christmas eve and already about 9 pm, thus I was sure that there wouldn’t be much shops opened at this time. We went around the airport to purchase some basic necessities for him before heading to the bed and breakfast where Cartcart had his much needed shower and rest.

I looked at his face, and felt amazement that he was here. It was unreal, like a dream. We hugged, and feeling of familiarity hit me, and yet, I still felt as if I was dreaming.

Christmas day. It was raining the entire morning and it didn’t seem to want to stop. I brought Cartcart some breakfast from the hawker centre near my home. I was curious to see what he thought of our local food.

Cartcart was vegetarian, so I got him some local favourites like Roti Prata with Dhal Gravy, Potato Epok-epok and some vegetable Popiah.

He ate with his fingers, like how the locals do. I watched him pick up the food and take a bite. He seemed to like them all! He especially liked the Dhal Gravy.

This is tasty! Mmm!

We waited for the rain to subside before heading out. I wasn’t sure where to take him. But since it was Christmas, I thought it could be good to bring him to Orchard Road to see the decorations.

Cartcart was curious and looked all around him.

This is a good design,” he pointed to the raised zebra crossing as we walked over it. “This will force vehicles to slow down

How come we don’t have things like these?” he asked, while holding on to the double pole on the bus. “I am sure it isn’t that difficult to do

He even complimented the traffic lights

The beeping sound is good for the blind, it changes its tone so they will move faster and I like the countdown before the light changes to red

So, is there anything that you don’t like here?,” I joked

I’m just getting used to the humidity here. It feels and smells like I’m enclosed in a tropical fish tank

I didn’t smell anything off though. Mainly because I was very used to the environment.

Going to Orchard on a Christmas day wasn’t such a great idea I think. It was extremely crowded! When we reached along the stretch of road next to Takashimaya, it was neck to neck with people! If I had to choose between being on the road, screaming at insane drivers and walking here, with loads of pushy people everywhere. I would choose to be on the road.

Trying to admire the Christmas display in a leisurely manner was quite impossible. Cart already started to get uncomfortable. So I had to abandon the city walk. Instead, we took the train to get to my parent’s place.

I peeked in to see who was there. Mum was already expecting him today, so my whole family was there. My aunt and my cousins happened to be visiting too.

I asked Cartcart in and introduced him to the family.

Everyone, this is Cartcart. Cartcart, this is my family

We all sat down and had a chat. Initially, my family seemed a little flabbergasted.

Nak cakap apa eh? I don’t know what to talk about” They whispered to each other. So they started on safe topics like what Cartcart was doing and how long he will be staying here.

Not before long, we started on everyone’s favourite topic – food!

Mum : Did you know that there are a lot of different type of bananas? We could also cook them in different ways. We can even cook them in santan. If you come here again, I’ll cook you Nasi Lemak!

Cartcart brought some Italian chocolates as a gift. Mum started to ask him how to pronounce some Italian words.

This brand of chocolate is called sperlari

I had to stifle a laugh when I saw everyone looking so enthralled when Cartcart was pronouncing some Italian words. They all had large eyes of amazement and rapture.

Dad was a little more direct and asked him if there were any Islamic centre, there in Rome.

But all in all, my family is starting to warm up to him and by the end of the night, everyone was all smiles and seemed to accept him.

I felt glad.

(To be Continued)

Marina, the musical

How did a simple visit turn into such a big musical?

Just this morning, mum came into my room and said to me, her face very serious.

“He is coming this saturday, right? We’ll go to your grandmother’s house today”

“Oh. Ok. How come?”

“Your grandmother is very sensitive, just invite her over to our house this weekend, so that you can introduce him to her. She might say yes, or she might decline, but ask anyway. Its out of respect and at least she will know what is going on with the family”

I’d be lying if I said I wasnt nervous because I do feel jittery. I’ve never brought a boyfriend home before and I have absolutely no idea how my family will react when they meet cartcart for the first time.

Maybe the whole scene will be like it came out of a mafia story – My dad sharpening his kris and look menancing. My grandma will play the matriach and stomp her cane on the floor With her eyes squinting, she’ll hiss out, “I will crrrruuuuush you like a cockroach”. Mum will be the inquisitor. I’m sure she has her lie detector somewhere.

Oh my tummy feels like a washing machine.

Felice anniversario il mio carissimo!

18th December! Can you imagine it? Two years already!

Happy anniversary, carissimo, and wishing to lots more to come.

Il mio bell’angelo, ti amo tanto tanto tanto. Un milione di baci per te amore mio. Non desidero altro che felicità per noi due.

I love you very VERY much

An open letter to Anita Sarawak

Dear Anita,

I’ve been trying to find your contact but to no avail. And the chances of you stumbling on this blog would be one in a billion, but I thought I’d just write anyway.

As an entertainer and singer, I know how reserved you are when it comes to your personal life.

But I would really like to know though, how it was when you met your English husband? Did you have any issues with him? Namely religion? Considering that he wasn’t a Muslim before he met you, was he open to the idea of converting at the time? How long did it take? And what was your role as a motivator the time? Was he able to adjust well? And was there any complication?

As crazy as it is, I really hope that you’ll reply. I’d really like to know …

The wedding dinner

Ah! Its so nice to meet up with old friends again!

Sheedah invited me to her wedding. Sheedah was a friend and an ex colleague from the previous school that I was attached with. I spent about two years there and had very fond memories of the school.

I messaged Narima if she wanted to go with me. She affirmed, so I fetched her on my scooter, and together we went to the ceremony.

A dance for the bride and groom

It still tickles me when I think about us wearing baju kurong (traditional Malay wear) on two wheelers. Me in my orange gold dress and my wedges and Narima in her Kebaya must have attracted quite a few shocked motorists on the road. I imagined that they were thinking, “Crazy Women! Why on earth are they wearing fancy clothes like that on a scooter?”

When we reached there, I saw so many of my ex-colleagues. We looked at each other and started to talk animatedly, excited to see each other again. I missed them so!

We entered the grand hall and waited for the bride and groom. It was so lovely, the sound of the Malay drum beating in chorus, and adorable little girls strewing flower petals on the floor. Sheedah looked radiant and her husband, Suhaimi looked equally dashing.

The chandelier almost covered my face

One could see the love in their eyes as they smiled and glanced at each other. It was so lovey dovey. It made me feel like wanting to get married too.

While watching the emcee talk, I updated my friends on whats new in my life while they updated theirs. It seemed that there are quite a few changes in the school – quite a few staff has left or thinking of leaving. Some going for new pastures, like teaching in Hong Kong.

Peiyi : Hey! You look so nice!

Me : Not as nice as you 🙂 You look beautiful in that outfit and that hairstyle.

Peiyi : I thought you were coming with your boyboy?

Me : No, he’s coming in December, thats why I sms’ed you about Tea Chapter.

Sherry : It’s popular with tourists.

Xiaofang : Boyfriend?

Peiyi : Where is he from?

Sherry : What is he working as?

Peiyi : How did you guys met?

Me : Erm .. erm ..

I was really happy to be around these wonderful people.

Mr Loo, Me, Hasnah, Waheeda, Linda and Narima.

But the night ended too quickly and we had to say our goodbyes too soon. But what a lovely night. Being among good friends is one of the most priceless things one could have.

By the way, the post to be Marina’s husband is now open. You may apply here.

Cartcart’s coming to Singapore!

My dearest has just recently booked his flight to Singapore. He’ll be here around the end of December so a big chance that we’ll spend Hari Raya together!

I’m most excited! I miss him so much, that it gets so depressing, it’s unbelievable.

Now where shall I take him to look around?

There are a couple of places where I could bring him – such as the more popular destinations such as the Sentosa Island for a day of frolicking at the beach or go to the different attractions there.

We could go to the esplanade together and catch a musical concert in the halls inside or just chill out by the bay and to listen to the band playing by the sea.

Maybe even going to the zoo (though it has been years since I’ve last been there) to see all sorts of animals in an ‘open concept’ environment and the night safari after that.

Or we could go the ethnic way and visit a tea house in Chinatown, eat delicious curries and pratas and see the Sri Mariamam Temple in Little India while I drag him to Geylang Serai or Arab Street to have him fitted with a Songkok (Malay Hat), Kain Samping (Kind of like a Sarong) and Capal (Malay Sandals) and visit the Sultan Mosque

Or we could go the urban way and let him see the heart of the city while we visit city hall and walk along war memorial to the parliament house, or to the Elgin bridge as we watch the bum boats pass by the rivers of Clarke quay.

I’d like to show him the art museum, the kitchy Haw Par Villa and if he’s up to it, maybe go to the rustic charms of Pulau Ubin or to the East Coast Park.

We’ll go to the Botanic Garden to see the beautiful flora and have a little picnic while the concert plays on.

But I would be happy even doing simple things with him, like eating at a hawker center together with him and let him sample a few local favourites, going to the shopping center together with him to catch a movie (even though I believe movie tickets are horribly overpriced)

I’ll let him have a first hand experience of the public transportation here and we could compare the prices of things when we go shopping, be it for groceries at Fairprice or electrical items at Sim Lim Square or even books at the borders book store.

And then a walk along Orchard road to visit the Istana and then stroll along the streets at night time, which, by then be full of lights and decorations.

And obviously since I’m a Jurong girl, I won’t forget to let him see the beautiful lakeside park that we have here and we’ll stroll by the Chinese Gardens and sit down by the bench watch the beautiful and tranquil scene in front of us.

We could have breakfast in the Bird Park, sipping our breakfast tea while birds of a multitude of colours surround us.

And since Cartcart is such a Maths-lover, We could even go to the Science Center which is just a couple of minutes ride from here. I think he’ll like it 🙂

I’ll even let him try a taste of durian. It will be interesting I think. I’ve never heard of an European eating durians before. Have you?


I’m like da king of fruits!

Marry? Me?


My cousin Sheeda and her new husband came over today, along with her mum and dad. It was a Malay custom to visit their relatives after their wedding.

All the afternoon, my family and I poured over the beautiful wedding pictures and wedding videos that they brought along with them.

Such a beautiful couple.

With that in mind, many well meaning people tend to ask me, when would I be getting married.

I really dont know.

To me marriage is something sacred. Marriage isnt just about cohabitation. Its about making a promise to each other. A vow between two people to care, to protect and to love each other.

When I get married, if God willing, it is forever. Marriage is a serious sanction. I wouldnt want to have my vows crumble in 10 years? 5 years? A year? Even less?

People who get hitched in the spur of the moment wake up to their partners, and finding that they have ‘compatability issues’ as well as ‘irreconciliable differences’

Do I want to risk that? No

Do I want to get married? Of course

I’d like to take care of my partner. I’d like to have children too.

But at the same time, I’d like my partner to know and understand where I’m coming from, my beliefs and my ideas while I try to share his before we jump into matrimony.

Do you really want me and my future partner to be in a marriage that we’d be unhappy in?

Marriage – Its not that simple.